Relationships by Design

Creating harmony across generations

Living together does not require a perfect family. It requires people who can speak honestly, listen carefully and make room for needs that may be different from their own.

"A successful multigenerational home should not be built around the strongest voice in the room."

What belongs here

  • Hopes, fears and unspoken expectations

  • Privacy, boundaries and independence

  • Couple relationships within the wider household

  • Adult children and ageing parents

  • Siblings who do not live in the home

  • Communications and family meetings

  • Compromise, consent and decision-making

  • Tension, repair and changing your mind

  • What each person brings with them - past experiences, relationship patterns, trauma, grief, and physical or mental health needs.

Questions worth asking...

  • Does everyone genuinely want this?

  • Who needs more time before a decision is made?

  • What are we assuming without saying aloud?

  • How will we protect each couple and individual?

  • What experiences or health needs could affect living together?

  • What would make someone feel unable to speak freely?

How Generations by Design can help?

We offer guidance, questions and practical tools to help families have honest conversations, understand different needs and make decisions together.

The Relationships by Design Book
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Important Notice: Generations by Design provides general information and supportive guidance only. It is not a substitute for legal, financial, medical, care, architectural, or other professional advice. Please consult suitably qualified professionals about your family's particular circumstances.